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Never allow your partner or yourself
to denigrate the other. |
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You must have personal respect and
consideration for yourself. |
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Everyone deserves respect and love,
but you can't expect to get it unless you give it. |
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If you allow your partner to disparage
you, expect to hear other damaging words. |
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Whatever you are willing to accept
is exactly what you're going to get. |
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Be compassionate, understanding, forgiving
and merciful. |
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Patience, kindness, consideration and
thoughtfulness can never be in short demand. |
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Never let a person use names or words
to hurt or degrade you or your partner. |
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Vow to protect yourself from thoughtless,
rude, mean or punishing behavior. |
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If destructive words are being used,
for whatever the reason, it must Stop. If not, a relationship
can't survive. |
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Once you've reacted you can then be
proactive. |
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A controlled mouth shows a controlled
mind. Use words for empowerment, encouragement and positive
recognition. |
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Ask for respect. Quietly demand it.
If your lover, partner, parent or friend can't exhibit self
control over their mouth, seriously consider looking elsewhere
for a relationship. |
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Pick an appropriate time to discuss
important issues. This is particularly true if there is
an emotional charge where feelings of anger or vexation
need to be vented. |
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Never enter into discussion of personal,
private or intimate issues in public. Wait until you have
privacy and the time to tackle issues. |
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If a person makes a mistake, or does
something that disappoints or angers you, belittlement or
badmouthing them in front of others will only lead to further
resentment, anger and frustration. |
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Trying to discuss anything when the
other person won't cooperate or take the time to talk is
a waste of time. |
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If necessary make a date to talk. |
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If the person keeps on delaying or
avoiding conversation or discussion on issues that are important
or significant to you, you may need to put it in writing
and place it in their hands. |
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Talking is good for closure of some
issues. And, unless allowed, will create a wound that won't
close. |
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You can never truly waste your thoughts
and words on the separated or departed. Life and thought
continues. |
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Romance doesn't just exist, you must
make it happen. You must make a sincere effort to keep it
alive to help your relationship flourish. |
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Little things count, it doesn't have
to be a dozen roses and champagne all the time. A favorite
piece of candy in a pocket or a little note can mean a lot. |
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Commit yourself to do something romantic
every day. Show it. Demonstrate it. It's the accumulative
total of all the little things that in end adds up to a
super special love and romance.
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